maximizing human potential through Life's Most Powerful Question.

W.I.N. Wednesday: Your, not The.

In my seminars and workshops I talk about The Pursuit of Excellence being “Striving to be Your Best, not The Best.”

“The Best” always needs some external measuring stick. It means you are continually comparing yourself to someone else. In a team environment it means that you are so focused on rising to the top and being ‘The Best” that you are failing to work as a member of the team and supporting, encouraging and acknowledging the work of your peers.

In today’s world of Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, YouTube, and all the other social media channels it is easy to get caught up believing that everyone else is happier, has a more exciting life, is a better spouse and parent, makes more money, is more productive, has more friends and is more successful than you.

Compared to the guy who wrote 80 books, the person who has 2 million loyal followers, the dude (or dudett) who built 50 schools in Africa, the business tycoon who just sold another startup for millions of dollars, the speaker who just spoke to another sold out crowd of 15,000 swooning fans, the online guru who just did another 7 figure product launch, the person won allegedly Father or Mother of the Year, the Nobel Prize winner or the athlete who signed a $100 million dollar contract it can be easy to feel like you are not living up to your potential.

You need to step back. Stop focusing on what everyone else is doing and reflect on what you are doing. What you are doing every day to become the best version of You that you can be. What you are doing to change one other person’s life for the better, not change the world. On what you are doing to be a good husband or wife, father or mother, son or daughter. What you are doing to be that friend when someone in your life is going through a rough time. The volunteer work you are doing. The new person at work you are mentoring. The 2 hours you took out of your busy day to lend an ear to someone who just needed someone to listen. The person you stood up for when it would have been easy to just be quiet or to jump on the bandwagon and bad mouth them like everyone else based on an unfounded rumour.

Striving to be your best is something you control. It is something you can work on every day and feel good about. Focus on significance not someone else’s definition of success. Focus on being worth knowing instead of worrying about who knows of you. Focus on your real friends, not just your Facebook ‘friends’.

Feel good about who you are and what you have accomplished then back get to work to make sure you are a little bit better tomorrow than you are today.

Take care.

Brian Willis


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